Recent Newaygo County Marriage License Seekers
“You make me want to be a better man”- Melvin (Jack Nicholson) to Carol (Helen Hunt) in “As Good As It Gets”
If you’ve seen the movie and recall the character played by Nicholson this seemingly romantic quote has plenty of context. Melvin has a long way to go to be even somewhat tolerable as a human being much less a person to be in a relationship with.
His statement is touching though, and maybe a bit telling about what it means to be in love.
The self improvement quest described seems far different than wanting to excel at a sport or develop a talent that draws admiration or even just being well thought of by others.
Perhaps the desire to be a better person isn't even aimed at wanting our lover, sig. other, lifetime spousal companion, etc. to like us more since, hopefully, we’re already pretty assured they love us.
Maybe the desire to be better is because when we love someone we feel like they deserve the best.
And so we strive to deliver the best we’ve got, the absolute best we can be, to the person who most deserves it.
Robert Heinlein once said “Love is the condition in which the happiness of the other person is essential to your own."
Well said Mr. H.
(And by the way, I loved “Stranger in a Strange Land”).
Here are the couples who have recently signed on to bring out the best in each other.
Olivia Mangan, Fremont & Jens Struble, Fremont
Kaitlynn Grooters, Grant & Justin Shoemaker, Grant
Rene Schmelling, White Cloud & Wayne TenBrink, Fremont
Ralph Wilson, White Cloud & Jody Griffes, White Cloud
Colin Wever, White Cloud & Brooke Seymour, Mt. Pleasant
John Locke, Fremont & Tanya Berends, Fremont
Matthew Hikade, Newaygo & Tamara Schumacker, White Cloud
Our thanks to the Newaygo County Clerk's Office
Story by Ken DeLaat
6 years ago Nick Hansen came to work at Super Lube in Newaygo.
And in doing so he found an extended family who helped make a dream come true.
At N3 World Headquarters we have been patronizing the facility on M-37 for a lot of years and Nick is a fixture on the crew having learned his job well under the tutelage of Manager Dan Mayle and the rest of the Super Lube crew.
Given his lifetime love of cars it has been a perfect fit for Nick.
Last month during the Newaygo County Fair Nick hopped into the minivan sponsored by the oil change store and competed in the Demolition Derby.
Dan Mayle: “We were sitting around one day and I said ‘Wouldn’t it be cool to get Nick in a Derby?’ We got his Mom’s permission and about 2 days later we found this old van.
"That was a year ago. The race didn’t happen last year.”
With the pandemic cancelling fair activities the initiative was put on ce but when this year came around the idea began to get traction again and Nick was entered into the Derby.
And he finished 6th out of 20.
“We had a strategy worked out for him and been working with him for at least a month or more, but once he started the race he was like ‘heck with you guys I got my own strategy’,” Dan said with a laugh.
Nick: “Well it was my first time doing it and I started out letting everyone else hit me.”
Dan: “About 20 lined up and they said’ Go’. Everyone took off but Nick. He backed it up like he was in a grocery store. He took a first good hit but he was still going.”
“We all had a great time, especially Nick and we kind of decided to do it again next year. “
I asked Nick if he was ready to give it another go next year.
An enthusiastic, “Oh Yeah!”
“He wants another shot at the title” added Dan with a grin.
It is Suicide Prevention Week and while conversations about mental health have become easier to talk about recently, suicide remains a frightening topic for many.
N3 asked the folks from Newaygo County Mental Health to provide us with warning signs and a few guidelines on intervention strategies.
In Michigan, a person dies by suicide every six hours. That is 4 people a day! Suicide is the 10th leading cause of death in Michigan. In 2017, more than 4 times as many people died by suicide in Michigan than by alcohol –related motor vehicle accidents.
It doesn’t have to be this way. Help is available for anyone considering suicide. We can all help prevent suicide. Friends and family members need to be aware of the warning signs and risk factors, and then know how to access help. According to the Suicide prevention hotline, below are the risk factors that make it more likely someone will consider, attempt, or die by suicide. Friends and family cannot cause or predict a suicide attempt but they should be aware of the following:
There are also warning signs to be aware of. These include:
According to the National Institute of Mental Health, taking these 5 action steps can help someone in emotional pain.
Suicide awareness prevention is something that everyone should be aware of. It is possible to save a life by being aware of warning signs for your friends and family members.
It is also important that if you see any of these signs in yourself, please call for help, or talk to a trusted friend or advisor.
“I could not tell you if I loved you the first moment I saw you, or if it was the second or third or fourth. But I remember the first moment I looked at you walking toward me and realized that somehow the rest of the world seemed to vanish when I was with you.”-Cassandra Clare, Clockwork Prince
Is there love at first sight?
Or is it merely infatuation that either evolves into love or fades when further familiarity reveals itself and the thrill, as B.B. King put it so aptly, is gone?
Love comes in as many shapes and sizes as the people who share it.
I recall asking couples who were seeking counseling how they came to love each other. At what point in their lives did they realize this was the person they wanted to commit to? To live with. To create a family with.
Their stories were moving and dynamic in that each partner was, for the most part, generally surprised at what they heard. It wasn’t all good all the time but the honesty was compelling and it served up plenty of material for the sessions.
Wedding vows are sort of designed for this but the whole performance thing that weddings bring creates the need for the flowery verbiage that precedes the ‘I do’s’.
Instead of maybe...
“You picked me up from my friend's bachelorette party and I tossed my cookies in your car on the way home. You assured me it was ok, got me to bed and even kissed me goodbye. The next morning I woke to two aspirin and a large glass of water on my bed stand.
That’s when I knew you were the one.”
Here are the latest folks signing on to obtain marriage licenses at the Newaygo County Clerk’s Office:
Karly Wiggins, White Cloud & Ryan Driscoll, White Cloud
Melissa Jane Witkoski, White Cloud & Newell Edward Kolbe, White Cloud
Elise Machiele, Ann Arbor, MI & Christian Brown, San Rafael, CA
Brenda Lacy, Newaygo & Brant Kutzli, Newaygo
James Goins, White Cloud & Kristin Dezeery, Grosse Pointe Woods. MI
Jack Clifford, Newaygo & Hannah Morgan, Newaygo
“Love is not a maybe thing, you know when you love someone.”- Lauren Conrad