.Once during a marriage counseling session the couple in my office was given one task for the week. They were asked to focus on treating their partner as well as they did their third best friend. Not their best friend or even their second best friend because given the current circumstances that was not likely to happen but it seemed #3 might be within reason.
Why? Because sometimes we treat our friends with more respect and allow more leeway for mistakes made than we do our spouse.
As for why folks take the leap in the first place?
I recall friends of ours sending out the announcement “After 16 years of unwedded bliss we’ve decided to tie the knot.”
I asked the groom to be “Why now?”
He said it simply seemed like the right time.
Another couple we knew told me they made the decision to wed because of dental insurance.
Both marriages have endured.
And both had a key element to their relationships.
They were indeed the best of friends.
Here are the recent applicants for marriage licenses in Newaygo County.
Tara Ferguson, Fremont and Chris Abbatoy, Walkerville
Katie Tamayo, Big Rapids and Benjamin Avery, Big Rapids
Chrystal Butler, Newaygo and Jeffrey Wallace, Newaygo
Connie Mooney, Newaygo and Jeff Parks, Newaygo
Shelby Moore, Ft. Wayne Indiana and Joseph Aurich, Ft. Wayne Indiana
Ricki Loss, Rothbury and Craig Skimski, Fremont
“Marriage is about becoming a team. You're going to spend the rest of your life learning about each other, and every now and then, things blow up. But the beauty of marriage is that if you picked the right person and you both love each other, you'll always figure out a way to get through it”-Nicholas Sparks, “At First Sight”